Toronto Star Advice Columnist Ellie Preaches Acceptance
Not perfect, but a step. vidyapriya noted that the latest Toronto Star advice column tackles fat in its second question this edition. The response, while not perfect in the acceptance realm, is pretty good - surprising!
The question comes from a woman whose sister is fat; she brings up the usual concerns about it and even notes that the family went to therapy. The bottom line?
Back off. Do not discuss weight, healthy eating, dieting or working out with your sister, and advise your parents to also stop all pressure on this front. Acceptance is what your sister needs most of all.
She may always be a plus-size woman, so stop trying to remake her. Your unconditional acceptance is the boost she needs to her self-image, whether or not she decides to improve her nutrition.
Funny thing is, earlier this morning I was reading Amy Dickenson's advice column in the Chicago Tribune from Sunday and she actually trotted out a mild HAES approach. Again, not perfect in part because Dickenson brings up The Biggest Loser as a positive example of a show for the question's author (gah.) But look at this message to the question's author in regards to a fat 12-year-old she's "concerned" for:
Her self-esteem is partially influenced by how she thinks others view her—if you think she's terrific, regardless of her size, then she will like the way she feels when she's around you. This can have a positive impact on her.
That's some pretty great stuff to be seeing in the papers, I must admit.